Wednesday 23 May 2012

Refresh angle



    Sometimes loss of meaningful conversation makes you biased in your perception .even while encountering reality we tend to close our Eyes. I admit It has been unfair on my part to favor on basis of gender through my writing  . i realized feelings are not dependent on being a male or female its individuality that ,matters ..not the softness of hand but softness of heart matters!!!!

Truth is not always what you want to hear, it not always bitter too
Tears not always mean misery
Silence not always means “YES”
Feminity not always means liking babies or flowers
Love happens once is “out of course”
Being lonely can be a choice
Best support system not necessarily means opposite sex
Thinking of some one doesn’t necessarily mean missing that some one
Moving on doesn’t always mean moving Away

There is always  an  exception to  rules 

  Thinking while driving can be” injurious to health” but who cares
Often injurious things allure. And  strange connection thread takes you from one end of corner to other...not always serious discussions can be meaningful but at times the most craziest talk brings out the fact that lived deep inside you and you didn’t even realize that even this is one of yours shade. We Human being  are mystry.we keep on living with a fixed thought for us  and some one suddenly comes and shakes our world and make us surprise bcz of  his/her presence oozes out a part of us even we were un known ,sometime positive sometime negative . ..Unnamed Relationship are best..cauz they don’t demand…
refresh mind  sees new angle .
you care to listen because the person has no vested interest in you .
Most of what I pen down  is my observation around me they take me to different world of contradictions  and I just put down  all I have in my clumsy  mind, not always there is solution but there are different strings  attached to it ..Modern world is an expensive place to stay in all prospective .
 Endless lies we tell our self .and we even convince  that its not lie …as per us  life has made us very strong and practical .with previous experiences ,of course it did .but you know what - every time we are hurt again it pains similar as first time , we may learn to be less expressive about it but pain doesn’t lower down ever …every broken relationship breaks a lil part within us, never to be healed again its like suppose your knee cap gets broken it is replaced  by the new artificial organ .it  fits in well and works better then Real . but you know its not real. similarily  that broken part within you  learns to function but   that vacuum is always there .we gotta accept it …
Habit of blaming our self for whatever goes wrong in our relationship with second person .and come up with solace line that I deserved it, I am too difficult, too complicated  ,he/she tried but I couldn’t handle ,or I acted weird . it so because we don’t want that person to be called wrong even to our self because that soul is so special to us that we choose  not to  see his/her side wrong and to justify that we take all the blame on our head ,
Often we think what we could have done to ease the situation, but not what she/he could have done .we say the other person tried but never realize that we almost killed our self to make it work but no body bothered even to notice it. Our reactions mattered not their actions
 Long time back some one said to me ,hearing No is not easy ,you need to have big heart to take no  to which i replied even saying "No is not easy" . But now i say  saying NO is not  fun but hearing NO is absolutely  not done  .handling rejection is just not easy .two letters N and O changes your life depends on which side of table you  are, receiving end or giving side …
If some one wants to go, Let him/her.And know it, there was no strength in your bonding, better now then later ,
you might stop the tear at eye corner or edge but cant control your mind  not flashback
Those” sweet Lines” which dragged you to get close when you had no such intention !
Those eyes which expressed immense love and  same pair of eye shows disgust
 Who never stopped from complimenting you now only knows your worst.
.Moving out turns so difficult since you had submerged yourself so deep in it ..You trusted those eyes those words and more over you believed in the word FOREVER.. lol thinking of this word I cant help giving a sarcastically smile …and lil beap J
The eyes which desperately use to search you, now avoids to look at you
One who followed you now changes his way if by chance sees you
To whom you meant the world, now you are out of his world
And you don’t even know why
Pain is not being abandoned pain is not knowing the reason specially from the one who knows your weakness about it
At times old conversation makes you smile and suddenly tiptoed feeling of humiliation comes it feels like you have been mocked upon and then suddenly “miss goodness” prevails and says “No No he/she hasn’t changed his /her situations made him do it .once agin my favourite dialog “ one who loves you truly would do anything to get you ,irrespective of any situation and circumstances “ never make way for any one to return ..let the other person do it…
At times we all come across a  situation when we need a push to move ahead because we want to but we are not able to.lil push  can help us move  away if not move on ..
Worst is when you go blank with your dreams ,that is when you know yourdreams but cant see any one who can fit in that dreams and you find yourself  unfit for anyone’s dream…..
Its not about being a man or a woman ….it can is the one who has loved more
Because my theory says love is never equal on both sides …its always more at one end
So who has more would suffer more J
Because that lilleftover that stays
Often tickles ,disturbs, engulfs  : your  NOW 

Just a thought





There is nothing called one sided in life," once over heard someone saying it  ...but  just a question pops up in my mind …does two sided guarantees positive result always ? No it does not.
This thing called feelings, emotion can never be equal at both ends, and it’s always more at one end and less at other…at different time, different situations…may be position keeps shuffling ...

The one thing that you really really want from life often comes at wrong time
And then we just don’t know .how to let it go…knowing it has to go.

All relationship could be much happier if we love each other rather then “own” each other. Why do all relationship turn into Game of controlling each others life when in the beginning we were ready to give so much of space …..This is not love...This is death of love…most of the time we do things to prove a point to others …and to ourself ..in the process we never get to know what really our strength are and what we ought to do …..

Being alone is not such a bad thing, if the alternative is compromising on your values, principal happiness; integrity .Loneliness is just a minor aberration.
We need to know “you will find some one who will care for you are,the way you want “
You don’t have to change yourself to get loved .stay who you are.dont apply shortcuts .Shortcuts  never gain long term result …while turning the pages of morning newspaper ,my eyes stuck on  an article in” Times of India”, which says “ Men don’t want to give the truth .They cant face the fact “ I completely  disagree .if a woman had so much intuition wouldn’t she know that the guy was just not that into her, wouldn’t she realize after her friends telling her so ?why do so many women ask for truth when truth is staring at them right in face ?it’s probably because women need to hear it, from him .The man she has given her heart to.  ,the real reason .she want to hear him say the word “I don’t love you” We can never have a future “ and how many guys have actually said that ?none because they always want to leave the window of opportunity open for what if ? that’s the reason that a women remains shattered over a break up for longer period of time than men .Men don’t need Explanation .They think it wasn’t meant to be “and have another glass of beer and go back to working on their excel sheet in the morning .

When your Expectations are not met, you want a change .but what if you change your expectation?then you just might be happy .why do we all wait for some one else to come and bring happiness our life ,happiness is a state of mind …..no doubt sense of belonging does beautiful thing to human being : it makes him human …nothing good happens in life without sincerity .as long as one tries to eep each other happy nothing can come in between a relationship ..one is really blessed if he/she attains it .
Its really easy to paint people in White or  Black .But life is not that simple .i Personally feel that we cannot judge people unless we step into their shoe and unless we really understand their psyche .But certain relationship are doomed .They are meant to give agony and pain nothing else .usually these relationship cant be defined ,hence they don’t have a name .They are just destined .I mean that’s how accidents happen and you meet wrong people …..

Becoming man and wife is common but to become soul mate is  what few acquire …the girl has to come out of the mode of being pampered  and baby sat as genrally we girls are use to …..at times becoming a woman is required to maintain your relationship with adequate maturity and yet not being boring …at times we keep hurting each other with lot of innocence .Good bye are never easy ....making it takes time ..there is always some thing special in begining of everything ..make it stay ...make it work ..dont let it go ....stop it before you regret .......

P.S  – I am essentially a dreamer ….it feels bad to see my close one’s in pain. seeing lot of people facing  relationship trauma  and killing their relationship in silent estrangement.. made me  come out with not so logically connected piece of writting  …..might be it is not logically connected ….and goes astray …


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There was Exit





I was hanging alone,falling from Distance
To a place ,I dint knew

Every thing was moving ,and I had no place to go

World of Sadness,I choose to explore
Wanted to know how dense it can be ,that it dared to break me to this core

Why I was not able to fight ,irrespective of being Right

It was dark steep street
With stinking narrow lanes

Every way I turned,I sawanother huge wall
Darkness literally haunted my soul

My life seemed dead,when I felt salty water over My eye’s edge
Those tears made my way blurred
I slipped,I flipped,,I even crawled
But did not allow me even once to fall

Moving ahead I felt blood less: lonely and lost
I collapsed with Grief
Thatended my peace

Negativity came from back and stabbed my back
But could not destroy strength of my heart
Bythe time I got free from its clutches
Diabolically ,Depression entered
And held my feet

I felt out of the way  and wrong
I couldnot judge ,who  was genuine ,and who was cheating me on

My blues gotdark
My pain was acute
Bad words they spoke ,kept spinning y world
Felt broken down I body ached
Cuffed to a pole ,I tried surging on the path of evil
I  was grisly terrified

“when there was entry, how could be there no exit space”
This thought made me strong,though  i was bleeding but I felt some energy on

Looked around ferociously
And I knew this fact
That I wont give up on my smile
Since no one is worth my precious life
I fought with my inner demons
Though they were quite strong

They tried making me cry
I closed my eye
I could not kill them but wounded them 
Not allowing them to attack me while I was moving on

I am out,the journey was nasty
May  be life takes me there againbut I wil know its not  forever…its not the end….
happiness and Peace  is yet to come …